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Blogging to Stir Understanding, Advocacy, and Hope

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When people with dwarfism and other disabilities encounter ignorance, insincerity, and inequity I’m compelled to speak up, take action, or write something. Guided by faith and justice, I write to advance advocacy and awareness. My intent is to stir understanding not pity, advocacy not apathy, and hope not despair.

After writing a dwarfism memoir trilogy and 223 blog posts, the sixth anniversary of my blog launch makes it an excellent time to assess the impact of these writings. Have I stirred up understanding, advocacy, and hope? Has awareness improved? Has my example encouraged others?

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Finding the answer to these questions is challenging given reader habits. Buyers frequently shelve a book to read at a later date, blog subscribers often hold off clicking on a post link until they have more time, and many social media browsers only read a post’s introductory paragraph without clicking for the full story. And after reading a post or book, few write a comment. As a result, my analysis is limited to feedback coming from those who give their opinion with a review, comment, or share. For book reviews, I go to Amazon and Goodreads; for comments, I scan my author website and social media; for shared content, I check Facebook and Feedspot Today. The listing of my blog in Feedspot’s “80 Best Disability Blogs to Follow in 2026,https://bloggers.feedspot.com/disability_blogs/, and “Top 100 Disability Blogs” every year since 2022 is an endorsement based on posting frequency, subject expertise, and the relevancy and freshness of content. Applying these criteria is helpful in this self-assessment.

Although my blog post frequency is predictable, changing circumstances have revised the schedule. For the first four years, intensive book marketing called for weekly posts. In year five, my husband Robert’s declining health and increased needs reduced posting to twice a month; his death triggered a five month grieving pause. In year six, I scaled back to monthly posts but doubled the word count. Thankfully, these changes haven’t caused readers to unsubscribe.

My subject expertise is based on decades living at 40 inches in height with dwarfism and skeletal dysplasia. Combined with law degrees from New Zealand and the United States, legal practice, and professional writing experience, I’m able to write boldly on diverse disability issues. My Christian faith influences my world view and gives me hope and wisdom. All of this feeds into my choice of topics. The following is a selection of posts featured in Feedspot Today as both relevant and fresh with comments picked from my author website or Facebook page:

“Shocking Seat Belt Violations.” May 6, 2026. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/shocking-seat-belt-violations/

Comments:

  • Good grief! Where has common sense gone?
  • Such a fine is definitely a $hock! Appalling. Utterly ridiculous and revenue gathering of the worst kind. Maureen

Mobility Scooter Refused Boarding.” April 1, 2026. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/mobility-scooter-refused-boarding/

Comment: Gritting my teeth as I read. I feel very embarrassed that Qantas has treated you with such disrespect. Julie

“Accessible” Public Bathrooms: Hits and Misses.” March 3, 2026. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/accessible-public-bathrooms-hits-and-misses/

Comment: Very true, but unfortunately time does not seem to have made a difference??!! Deborah

Pregnancy Centers Under Fire.” January 7, 2026. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/pregnancy-centers-under-fire/

Comment: Prayers for all the life-affirming pregnancy resource centers. Susan

Institutional Care.” June 4, 2025. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Institutional+Care  

Comment: What a wonderful way to recount the faithfulness of God. Sarah

Halt Traffic Violence to Vulnerable Pedestrians with ADA Enforcement.” June 10, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/halt-traffic-violence-to-vulnerable-pedestrians-with-ada-enforcement/

FOUR MILLION NEW BOOKS A YEAR: Write Reviews to Help People Pick What to Read.” May 6, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=YEAR%3A+Write+Reviews+to+Help+People+Pick+What+to+Read

“Always an Advocate” book review: Angela stands alone as THE guide book for how to actually make the changes that we need to see in society. [This book] arms you with the level of analysis and thinking we need as a movement to succeed. ~ Rebecca

Kitchen Table or ICU Decisions?April 15, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/kitchen-table-or-icu-decisions/  

5 shares and 3 of 51 comments:

  • You continue to educate and advocate. Genevieve
  • Such wise counsel. Stephanie 
  • Thanks you for making people aware of this in such a personal story. Paulette

What’s It Like To Be Little?” November 25, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=What’s+It+Like+To+Be+Little%3F  

Comment: How exasperating that in spite of all the hard work that you and other small people have done to get all sorts of things lowered by law, a hospital entry phone is still positioned out of reach! Sue

Relief In Sight for Anguished Airline Passengers with Wheelchairs.” March 4, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Relief+In+Sight+for+Anguished+  

“Are We There Yet?” January 29, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/are-we-there-yet/

Comment: I had no idea of the degree of difficulty. Sandy

MEDICAL DIAGNOSTIC EQUIPMENT: Proposed for State and Local Government Entities.” January 15, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/medical-diagnostic-equipment-proposed-for-state-and-local-government-entities/

Unparalleled Year of Us.” January 1, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Unparalleled+Year+of+Us  

Comment: Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights. Sandy

AIRLINE PASSENGERS with DISABILITIES have RIGHTS: What’s in Our Bill?” December 18, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/airline-passengers-with-disabilities-have-rights-whats-in-our-bill/

“PATIENTS HAVE RIGHTS: What’s in Their Bill?” December 11, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/patients-have-rights-whats-in-their-bill/

Comment: Makes sobering reading Angela. So good that you voice the issues that badly need addressing. Shirley

Special Education Mandate Honored.” December 4, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=SPECIAL+EDUCATION+MANDATE+HONORED

Comment: Thank goodness this law was passed. I remember a boy with autism in my first grade class [75 years ago]. The teacher sent him outside to play much of the time. Sandy

Van Accessible Parking Predicament.” November 13, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Van+Accessible+Parking+Predicament

Comment: I agree 100% that the accessible parking spaces (not including the very few van spaces) are often also too small to help the passenger in and out of the vehicle. Deborah

Successful Authors Write and Talk.” November 6, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Successful+Authors+Write+and+Talk  

International Dwarfism Awareness Day.” October 23, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=International+Dwarfism+Awareness+Day

Comment: What a wealth of great material to grow in understanding and find encouragement! Julie

Is Dwarfism a Disability Under the ADAAA?” September 25, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/is-dwarfism-a-disability-under-the-adaaa/ (7 Facebook shares)

PHYSICAL THERAPY: Move and Improve.” September 18, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=+PHYSICAL+THERAPY%3A+Move+and+Improve+

Comment: Thanks for helping me understand how physical therapy offers treatment that can help someone stand and walk without problems. Zachary

Although the five posts from June to December 2025 in the “Until Death Do Us Part” series, https://angelamuirvanetten.com/category/until-death-do-us-part/, were not featured in Feedspot daily posts, a sampling of responses from readers on the caregiving and grief journey shows that they were helped.

Comments:

  • Through healing, your blog will help all those grieving who are bearing the loss of a loved one. Leann
  • You give us strength, courage, and renewed faith in God’s providential care for our own journeys that lie ahead of us. Jeanne
  • Thanks for sharing this encouraging story of love, care and community. Jean
  • Isn’t it amazing how God gives us the ability and strength we need, in order to do difficult things? Much of this reminded me of such times in my own journey. Barbara
  • Thank you for being faithful to God, and making it possible for Robert to spend his last years with you in his own home. Juliette

Despite other posts also missing the cut for a Feedspot feature, the impact of three particular posts warrant honorable mention:

Keynote Speaker at Star Spangled Awards Banquet.” July 15, 2024. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/keynote-speaker-at-star-spangled-awards-banquet/ prompted 111 Facebook comments, such as:

  • Your speech definitely sent the message that we all need to be advocates for each other. Kim
  • Your words were heartfelt and relatable. Susie
  • Great, great address!! Keep fighting!!! Joan

Barrier Removal Beats Awareness.” May 8, 2023. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Barrier+Removal+Beats+Awareness

Comment:

  • I haven’t conquered yet, but I’m on a mission to get a few stores to lower at least one Point of Sale terminal. Susie

“Finding Hugo: Our Wheelchair Accessible Van.” September 26, 2022. https://angelamuirvanetten.com/?s=Finding+Hugo%3A+Our+Wheelchair+Accessible+Van generated 14 website comments.

            The purpose of this blog impact analysis is not to assign a letter grade. But rather to help me decide if this blog has reached the end of it’s useful life. What do you think?

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Outtakes from “Pass Me Your Shoes”

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The celebration of National Book Lovers Day on August 9th started me thinking about the outtakes cut from a draft manuscript to manage book length. Readers miss out on engaging material. But authors often save the outtakes for later use. This post includes a few outtakes from “Pass Me Your Shoes.”

Bobby hesitated to set our wedding date on October 31st because itwas Halloween. I convinced him it wouldn’t be an issue because New Zealand doesn’t celebrate Halloween. Although there was no hint of Halloween on our wedding day, I didn’t think about our wedding anniversary being in America on Halloween every year thereafter. Now we have to find a way to avoid getting caught up in the annual celebration of superstition and occult themes.

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One summer we encountered an access problem that was resolved through ingenuity not confrontation. We were sleeping in a friend’s guesthouse when a persistent, high-pitched noise woke us. We finally identified the smoke detector on the ceiling as the culprit. It was time to change the battery! There was no escaping the noise and it would have been an assault on our host’s hospitality to call him at one o’clock in the morning. We had to solve this problem on our own.

It was an involved process. We dragged the dining room table to the bedroom door, tilted it on end and maneuvered it through the doorway without gauging a hole in the wall. We set the table back on its legs and lifted a chair onto the table. Robert climbed onto the table and then onto the chair. I held the chair while Robert disconnected the battery. Sleep was now possible.

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Robert was excited when his niece asked if her cat, Kendall, could live with us. All he had to do was convince me. It’s not that I dislike cats so much as they make me sneeze and I don’t like getting pawed or scratched. I agreed for Kendall to move in on two conditions: (1) Robert take full responsibility for all Kendall’s needs; and (2) the bedroom would be off-limits.

                          Kendall had everything going for him: personality, gorgeous fur, amazing eyes, and a contortionist’s ability to squeeze into unlikely places. There was one big problem—Kendall refused to use the litter box. Robert consulted cat lovers and tried three different box designs and litter types. However, after three weeks of Kendall toileting anywhere but in the litter box, Robert couldn’t take it anymore. He found him a home with a devoted lover of Himalayan Persian cats.

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Chocolates for a Little People of America fundraiser were being delivered to our address. But the truck driver could not navigate our community without churning up lawns and breaking sprinkler heads. So Robert met the driver outside the gate. He was amazed to see a huge semi-truck and trailer and dumbfounded when the driver opened the back door. Our few boxes of chocolate were the only cargo!

And for the whole story, read the second book in my dwarfism memoir trilogy, “PASS ME YOUR SHOES: A Couple with Dwarfism Navigates Life’s Detours with Love and Faith,” https://angelamuirvanetten.com/pass-me-your-shoes/.

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Review and Revise

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Four years ago in July, my first blog post was uploaded. I even guaranteed to remember the first person to write a comment. Thanks to Donna H. for being first and to all the commenters that followed with encouragement and expertise.

I prayed that this blog would be a positive experience for readers and help bring me closer to those who share my passion. If the eight guest posts and 446 comments on 200 plus posts are any indication, I’d say these prayers have been answered.

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My motivation for writing this blog is to be a voice for people with dwarfism and other disabilities, guided by faith and justice. I have ventured to do this by incorporating excerpts from my dwarfism memoir trilogy—Dwarfs Don’t Live in Doll Houses, Pass Me Your Shoes, and Always An Advocate—and writing original material related to calendar events, my activities, and issues crying out for attention.

Readers can subscribe to the blog or see links to posts on social media. It’s a great boost when posts are shared in a reader’s own network. Totally unexpected was the thrill of Feedspot selecting my blog as one of the Top 100 Disability Blogs on the web! As a result, a link to one of my posts is regularly featured in a Feedspot email.

It’s hard to predict how well a post will be received. Sometimes I’m surprised when a post either garners no response or racks up numerous comments. I’ve concluded that people relate best to posts with personal stories. This is apparent from three posts with the most comments:

  • First: First Time (July 27, 2020).
  • Second: Crashing Into My 70th birthday (August 28, 2023).
  • Tied for third:
    • Finding Hugo (September 26, 2022).
    • Celebrate People Blessed with Down Syndrome (March 22, 2021).

Writing a weekly post has been challenging for many reasons, but I’ll only mention two. On the health front Robert and I both had a brush with death and stint in ICU. Robert for end stage renal disease requiring dialysis three times a week, and me for COVID-19 that put me into a coma. We have also weathered multiple surgeries. For me it was about the eyes—cataracts, laser, and vitrectomy leaving me totally blind in my left eye; for Robert it was about his bladder. Physical therapists have worked with Robert at home off and on to strengthen his legs to stop falling and regain mobility. Despite best efforts, Robert no longer drives and I don’t drive at night. I have also picked up the caregiver role for his personal and medical needs.

The second time guzzler relates to publication of my dwarfism memoir trilogy. Writing was the easy part, but connecting with readers involves book launches, book reviews, media interviews, presentations, and networking—all necessary but time consuming tasks.

I mention all this as background to my decision to reduce the frequency of future posts from weekly to the first and third Mondays. This will ease scheduling pressure and increase post quality.

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Finish Reading More Books

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If you’re anything like me you have multiple books waiting to be read. They’re either stacked on a table, lined up on a bookshelf, or downloaded onto your e-book reader. You truly plan on reading them, but never quite get around to it. Now I have an idea for how to get these books off the “want to read” pile. Here it is in three simple words: Audiobook Appreciation Month.

According to the Audio Publisher’s Association 2018 survey, (1) 57% of audiobook listeners agreed that “audiobooks help you finish more books;” and (2) the top three activities while listening to audiobooks are: driving (65%), relaxing before going to sleep (52%), and doing housework/chores (45%). Other common multi-tasking activities include commuting, exercising, gardening, and walking.

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Road trips are a great opportunity to listen to audiobooks. In 1996, I fondly remember a family drive when we took turns reading out loud from Dr. John Gray’s print book, “Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus.” We never actually finished the book as the two couples in the car kept interrupting whoever was reading to add their commentary. Two years later, I could have avoided getting car sick while reading and listened to Dr. Gray himself narrate an audiobook edition.

It’s no surprise that audiobooks have their own appreciation month. The audiobook industry is worth more than two billion dollars and is expected to hit 35 billion dollars by 2030! June was chosen as the celebration month as it coincides with the beginning of summer, vacations, and reading programs.

Despite being costly to produce—an average of $300 to $400 per finished hour of production—audiobooks remain affordable. About 40% of all audiobooks are consumed through public libraries that offer free downloads. And audiobook apps like Speechify, Audible, Audiobooks, and Kindle typically offer free membership for 30 days and credits which can be exchanged for a title of your choice.

So are you ready to finish more books by listening to an audiobook this summer? May I humbly suggest that you listen to the audiobook I wrote and narrated: “Always an Advocate: Champions of Change for People with Dwarfism and Disabilities.” It’s available on Amazon, Audible, and iTunes. But first listen to a retail sample of me reading an excerpt from Chapter 14, “Let Me Ride” discussing my experience at a Saul Alinsky training advocating against inaccessible public bus transportation.

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And then read Marsha’s May 2022 audiobook review:

Angela Muir Van Etten’s audiobook is a real eye opener. You get to know Angela through her words and, even better, to enjoy her distinctive New Zealand accent as she reads her story. Angela details her struggles inside and outside the disabled community and doesn’t whitewash the challenges she and other Little People face as individuals and as a group as they coalesce to bring about societal changes and remove architectural barriers that most of us never even see. . . I know this is the last book in a trilogy but it can’t be the last one she writes! Keep on keeping on Angela!

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Unparalleled Year of Us

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UNIVERSAL themes of love for family and friends brought us together in Florida, United States (U.S.) and Sydney, Australia.

  • The wedding of Brittany and Stephen was a joyous assembly of family from around the U.S.
  • My 70th birthday trip to Sydney inspired a three-day, three generation reunion with my siblings, nieces and nephews followed by visits from my matron of honor 42 years earlier and girlfriend since kindergarten. Robert was not well enough to travel with me, so he stayed home in the care of three family members.

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  • Another three generation get together occurred in Stuart when my New Zealand (NZ) girlfriend of almost 60 years visited for the first time with her daughter and granddaughter.
  • More friend connections were made at Robert’s high school reunion and when hosting our annual Little People of America (LPA) Thanksgiving/Christmas gathering.

UNDERTAKING writing projects continued with uploading weekly blog posts; contributing a chapter to an anthology called “Dwarfism Arts and Advocacy: Creating Our Own Positive Identity;” and an LPA regional workshop on breaking down dwarfism stereotypes.

Several UNEXPECTED deaths of people from LPA, church, and family hit hard. The most shocking was the sudden loss of Ray Gedge. Ray dates back to high school days and became family when he married my aunt about 48 years ago. He also served as Robert’s groomsman in our NZ wedding in 1981. His passing is a solemn reminder that we have entered the last lap of our lives on this planet.

URGENT visits to emergency rooms involved both Robert and myself. A couple related to falls, but two were more serious. The day after testing positive for COVID, I was hospitalized for two days in a Sydney ICU after being brought back from the brink of death. A couple of months later, Robert was hospitalized for eight days as ICU staff in Stuart wrestled him back from multiple infections and stroke level blood pressure readings.

UNCOOPERATIVE is the best word for Robert’s attitude towards nebulizer treatments and exercise between physical therapy sessions. He agrees to do it, but his mastery of procrastination makes for many days without either one.

UNDERSTANDING how to motivate Robert remains elusive.

An UNCOMFORTABLE transition of Robert’s household maintenance chores involved me working with contractors to service, repair or replace pool and lawn sprinkler pumps, washing machine, air conditioner, waste disposal, and outdoor pressure washing.

An UNUSUAL wedding anniversary celebration involved two chocolate chip muffins picked up on my way home from having my blood drawn.

UPLIFTING events and routine activities preserved my sanity as a newbie caregiver. I enjoyed meals and fellowship at church meetings. Worship, Bible reading and study for teaching Sunday School underpinned my perseverance and prayer for patience.

USE of my gifts as church clerk and a board member for a charter school for autism contribute to being salt and light in the world.

The UNPREDICTABILITY of the future stops me from making specific New Year goals. I’m content to let the Lord direct my steps in accord with Proverbs 16:9.

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Successful Authors Write and Talk

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Writing a book is not finished when you add the last word to the last chapter. Nope, you still need to respond to editor comments and choose a traditional or independent (indie) publishing path. And then there’s the massive undertaking of getting people to read the book. I say massive because each year three to four million new book titles publish and in today’s market the average book sells less than 300 print copies in the United States over its lifetime!

So how do authors get their books to stand out above the stack? It’s not enough to produce a well written manuscript lauded with top-notch reviews. Although quality

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writing is still an important ingredient for success, it doesn’t go very far without being paired with excellent marketing. And therein lies the rub. Publishers have shifted most book marketing to authors.

In order to sell my dwarfism memoir trilogy, I needed to be proficient in both writing and marketing. For me, it was a case of on-the-job training. I immersed myself in articles and webinars on publishing and greatly benefited from coaching by Ava Pennington, an author and teacher at writers’ conferences and faith-based and general market events.

As a result, my marketing strategy included: creating book launch teams; developing an author website—“a voice for people with dwarfism & disability,” https://angelamuirvanetten.com; writing a weekly blog post; being active on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest; presenting workshops at LPA national and district conferences; and contributing articles and interviews to magazines and websites.

I also prepared media kits for each book with the goal of attracting podcast, radio or TV interviews; all of which involve talking. The listing of disability focused podcasts on which I have been featured are on my website at https://angelamuirvanetten.com/media/ and listed below:

  • Coach Ang and Samyuktha. “Author Spotlight: A Champion for Change,” Season 3, Episode 2. A Little Perspective. October 29, 2023. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g69a1m3ktEc
  • “How to Advocate for People with Disability and Dwarfism,” Season 4, Episode 27. Joni and Friends Ministry Podcast – November 10, 2022.
  • Betsy Fasbinder. “Angela Muir Van Etten: Always an Advocate.” The Morning Glory Project Podcast – January 19, 2022.
  • “Always an Advocate,” Episode 32. Florida Disability Rights, You First Podcast – November 18, 2021.
  • “Marriage Story: A Couple with Dwarfism Navigates Life’s Detours with Love and Faith,” Season 2, Episode 37. Joni and Friends Ministry Podcast – October 22, 2020.
  • “A Voice for People with Dwarfism and Disability,” Season 2, Episode 36. Joni and Friends Ministry Podcast – October 15, 2020.

Please contact me at angela@angelamuirvanetten.com if you’d like to schedule an interview, speaking engagement, or guest blog post.

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2022 Year in Review: Now and Then

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January. A positive interview on The Morning Glory Project podcast, helped market book three in my dwarfism trilogy, “Always an Advocate.” This was in stark contrast to a 1990 interview with a radio shock-jock who ridiculed little people.

February. The message in my 40th Valentine’s card from Robert—I’m a lucky husband and better man for having your love in my life—generated smiles instead of tears when he had no card to give his bride in 1982.

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March. The release of “Always an Advocate” Audiobook generated favorable reviews by listeners with vision impairments. In contrast, John Stossel’s “Give Me a Break” ABC TV segment on dwarf tossing 20 years earlier earned my negative review.

April. Our LPA trip to Lion Country Safari in Palm Beach, Florida was reminiscent of our 1984 trip to an African Lion Safari in Canada minus the need for directions from a farmer who laughed at the idea of lions roaming the landscape.

May. A garage worker totaled my car when his foot got caught on the accelerator! Twenty-two years earlier, a truck driver totaled Robert’s van when the thin metal edge of the flatbed sliced open the passenger’s side like a can.

June. My blog post, “Give Blood, Give Life,” highlighted the difficult blood draw process for many little people and need for donated blood during elective surgeries. Many years earlier, Robert was disqualified from a Hepatitis C research study because staff were unable to draw his blood.

July. Although I chaffed at the $100 surcharge it cost to ride in an accessible taxi with my scooter from the Spokane, Washington airport to the LPA conference hotel, this was better than being denied taxi service at the Denver LPA conference five years earlier.

August. An involved debridement appointment with my dental hygienist was a solemn reminder of the day nine years earlier when I needed a thorough debridement and teeth cleaning before the periodontist would write a letter clearing me for aortic valve replacement surgery.

September. After 18 weeks without wheels, we bought a 2020 Toyota Sienna Wheelchair Accessible Van equipped with pedal extensions, a power adjustable height driver seat, and steering wheel extension. It was a far cry from the Austin Mini car my parents gave me on my 18th birthday.

October. The “Ten Steps to Effective Advocacy” workshop I presented at the Florida LPA regional in Gainesville, Florida reminded me of the many advocacy workshops I presented as far back as 1986 to people with dwarfism and disabilities, parents of special education students, and disability professionals.

November. My interview on the Joni and Friends Ministry Podcast to discuss advocacy to change discrimination against people with dwarfism and other disabilities was a perfect follow-up to the two 2020 podcasts the ministry recorded after publication of “Pass Me Your Shoes.”

December. On December 29, 1999 a newspaper called the dwarf tossing atrocity one of the ten worst inventions of the millennium. My June 27th blog post, “Florida Bans Dwarf Tossing in Bars,” explains why the June 28, 1989 law was needed. For more book, blog, and media information, go to my website at https://angelamuirvanetten.com

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Just Call Me A Ding-a-Ling

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You might think I lost my mind choosing to celebrate National Ding-a-Ling Day on December 12th. After all ding-a-lings are people considered nitwits or kooks. But no, in this case, the ding-a-ling is a throw-back reference to the sound of bells heard when the phone rang or the phrase “ring a bell” when reminded of something important or familiar.

Ding-a-Ling Day reminds us of the importance of staying connected with friends and family and encourages people to pick up the phone and call someone they haven’t spoken to in a while. It’s a day to curb our tendency to lose touch with people when we change schedules, schools, jobs or relocate to another city.

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In our 40 years of marriage we have racked up all of these changes, including relocations from Virginia to Maryland to Ohio to New York to Florida. As a result, we have lost touch with many people we care about.

But a phone call can change all that. Hearing the voice of a friend or family member is the next best thing to being together. We can close the gap of distance by sharing our news, laughter or tears, and concern for one another. Mood can be detected. Miscommunications can be straightened out.

This year, Ding-a-Ling Day rang a loud bell with me . I had deep-seated regret for being so disconnected from a friend in Little People of America (LPA) that I didn’t even know she was in a losing battle with cancer until she was in Hospice care! I had taken the relationship for granted and presumed we would catch up the next time I saw her at an LPA conference. If only I had picked up the phone now and then.

Even though December 12th has passed this year, it’s never too late to call someone. And we don’t need to limit ourselves to calling once a year. Why not pick up the phone whenever we’re thinking of someone? Call someone today. As the saying goes, “yesterday is gone, today is almost over, and tomorrow isn’t promised.”

Be a ding-a-ling in the life of someone you care about.

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BOOK NEWS: The first book in my dwarfism trilogy, “Dwarfs Don’t Live in Doll Houses,” is now available as an e-book on Kindle. Read the portion of my memoir from birth through my twenties. See my development in family, school, work, and public life. Download it on Amazon.com.

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STRESS MANAGEMENT: Moving the Business Out of Our Home

Let’s not stress about being five days late for National Stress Awareness Day on November 3rd. Today is as good a day as any to identify and reduce the stress factors in our lives. After all, stress management is critical for maintaining physical and mental health and protecting relationships.

Ten years into our marriage, Robert’s business—Adaptive Living—had become a huge stressor on our relationship. For six years he operated out of a home office where he worked day and night. Finally in November 1991, he saw the light of day when he moved out of his basement office into a commercial office building in the Erie Canal district of Rochester, New York.

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Robert saw a future in buying the property because it was close to downtown Rochester and Kodak’s world headquarters. The purchase was only possible because God graciously answered our prayers by providing as follows:

  • The Small Business Administration (SBA) loan program was funded the year of Robert’s application to buy a commercial building.
  • Robert was the first Rochester business owner in two years to qualify for the SBA loan for people with disabilities.
  • The SBA commercial loan interest rate was 3% compared to bank rates of 16% and the SBA mortgage term was 20 years compared to bank terms of 10-15 years.
  • Robert was approved at an affordable price for the life insurance policy required by the SBA; this had been a concern due to Robert’s dwarfism and lack of data on life expectancy for those with his type of dwarfism, Spondyloepiphyseal dysplasia.
  • Renovation funds were part of the SBA loan and matched by a City of Rochester community-development grant allowing for much needed building improvements.
  • The city cleaned up neighborhood debris, demolished a derelict building, and added a fence behind the property.

All was well until I learned that the SBA loan required me to sign as guarantor and use our home as collateral. I was distraught. If the business failed, my salary could not cover two mortgages and we could lose both the business and our house. For me it was a deal breaker. For Robert, not to do so was a marriage breaker. Amidst my tears and protest, Robert promised me that if the business could not pay, he would get another job to pay the loan. And so, I signed the loan papers with extreme reluctance.

The intent of moving the business was not only for Adaptive Living to grow and be physically more accessible to clients, but also for Robert to be more accessible to me.

So did the business move reduce our stress as planned? Find out by reading the rest of the story in “Pass Me Your Shoes,” chapter 12, Seeing the Light of Day, pages 83-84.

BARGAIN HUNTER’S ALERT: the “Pass Me Your Shoes paperback is discounted below the cost of printing and a Kindle edition is now available.

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NATIONAL AUTHOR’S DAY

Always An Advocate

November 1st is National Author’s Day and a great finish to the October 2021 book launch of “Always an Advocate” during Dwarfism Awareness Month. Thank you to those who liked, commented, or shared my Facebook posts. But with over 650 million books going into circulation last year, the only way to make a splash in the publishing pond is for readers to take the next step and go to Amazon to buy the book. A purchase is the best way to encourage an author.

According to markinblog, non-fiction is hugely popular right now and memoirs, biographies, romance, and suspenseful thrillers are the most popular genres in both print and digital editions. That’s good news for the many LP authors who are in the hunt for readers of their nonfiction memoirs.

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My first draft of this post included a listing and brief description of LP books dating back to 1988. However, there are just too many to list! Altogether I counted 18 authors with dwarfism who have written a memoir. I was surprised to discover I only knew about half of them. So stay tuned for a resource update on my website, angelamuirvanetten.

Although the memoirs all share the challenges we face as little people, the stories are as diverse as the people telling them. The authors are male or female; single, married, divorced, or widowed; different dwarfism types; with and without children; black or white; gay or straight, spiritual or not. They are employed or self-employed as coaches, dancers, doctors, entertainers, entrepreneurs, lawyers, leaders, musicians, professional wrestlers, public speakers, or teachers.

Many people tell me they want to write a book. And that’s great for the readers who are always looking for another great read. But before you venture into this world, be sure you’re ready for the ride. It’s not just a matter of sitting down at the computer for a few weeks and uploading a manuscript. Nope, before the writing comes the planning and after the writing there is editing, more editing, and proof reading. Then comes the decisions whether to seek an agent, publish traditionally or independently, or both.

It used to be that if you landed a publisher your work was done and your future as an author was bright. Not so anymore. Let me introduce you to a new “m” word. Marketing. Although not an offensive word, for those who love to write, marketing can cause great consternation. Both Indie and traditionally published authors must market their books. For example, an active social media presence on multiple platforms is essential. This is time consuming, self-promotion can be uncomfortable, and the shifting sands of social media make marketing outcomes unpredictable.

None of this is said to discourage you. If you want to write a book, “go for it.” But know what you’re in for. Start building your social media platforms now. Sign up for webinars to learn about the trade. And write, write, write. Authors are needed to educate, encourage, and entertain.

For more information on my dwarfism trilogy, blog, media, resources, and photos, go to my website at https://angelamuirvanetten.com.